Hi Dan,
I also use a modified "kitchen" oven for reflow soldering with good results. Mine has a small vent inside the oven chamber and I believe that this contributes to a more even head spread than direct IR alone.
Similar to Juku's experience, potentially dangerous fumes are the biggest problem with this approach but I would assume the same applies to "cheap" commercial reflow ovens. For now, I simply use the oven outside my house, but I am also working on a ventilation system which will extract the fumes.
While "manual control" with a thermometer and stopwatch works, the process is neither very accurate nor repeatable in my humble opinion.
Thus I built some custom electronics for temperature measurement + heating regulation to meet temperature profiles as defined by solder paste and component manufacturers. Basically it is a microcontroller, display and some buttons, thermocouple interface and solid state relais to turn heating elements on and off.
From my experience, three factors are critical for the heating profile:
1. ramp time and gradient (from ambient to liquidus) must meet solder paste requirements, so that flux is activated at the right time and solder really "flows" into place later
2. temperature must then rise above the melting point of the solder paste, obviously higher with lead free solder (about 217°C for most pastes). Time above this liquidus temperature must be long enough but not too long (~ 10 seconds).
3. maximum temperature must not exceed the max temp rating for your components, probably < 230°C
Last factor turned out to be the hardest to meet. Due to temperature overshoot you might simply destroy sensitive components such as quartz, electrolytic caps or ICs during reflow phase.
I found I had to insulate the oven and add additional heating elements to achieve a compliant profiles.
Also, the brand and type of solder paste had a great influence on results. I currently use this paste:
http://www.beta-estore.com/rkuk/order_p ... .html?p=18
While I built the temperature regulation from scratch, I found a few commercial options that look promising. If I did it again, I might give that a try instead. Greatly reduces effort - depending on your oven you might just need to add addtional heating power and / or insulation but control is really the complex task.
Beta has a "external" controller which basically turns oven on and off based on temperature measurment and some "training data".
They are at version 3 but the previous model is still available and cheaper - looking at the features I would say it does the job.
http://www.beta-estore.com/rkuk/order_p ... html?p=613
http://www.beta-estore.com/rkuk/order_p ... wg=1&p=242
If you are interested in building / modifying your own oven, the following controller might be an interesting alternative - if you don't mind importing it from the US:
www.zallus.com/product/zallus-oven-kit/
If you try either of these, I would be interested to hear about your results.